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दोस्तों आज पहली बार मैं इस कम्यूनिटी में अपने पिछली ज़िंदगी के कुछ रिश्तों का सच बयान करने की कोशिश करता हू
मेरा एक गावों है जहाँ मैं पैदा हुआ और बचपन गावों की धूल में खेल कर बड़ा हुआ आज सोचता हूं तो लगता है सिर्फ़ दो दशकों में ज़िंदगी क्या सब कुछ बदल गया लेकिन याद आता है कभी कभी वो बचपन जो अब हमारे आगे की पीढ़िया नहीं जी पाएँगी....उस वक़्त हमारे खेल भी हमारे तरह बहुत सीधे होते थे जैसे गिल्ली डंडा बस दो बच्चे मिले एक लकड़ी पेड़ से तोड़ी बना लिया अपना खेलने का सामान और पूरा दिन निकल जाता था...काँचे जीत लिए अगर तो लगता था जंग जीत गाये
रात में दादी की कहानिया आज भी कानो में गूँजती है कभी कभी और सच पूछिए तो वो एक कहानी जो वो अक्सर दोहराती थी उनके मरने के बाद बहुत याद
आई... अभी भी गावों जाता हूँ हमारे दादा जी बहुत बूढ़े है जब भी जाता हूं तो मेरे पैर छूने पर उनका सर में हाथ फेरना महीनो भूल नहीं पता क्योंकि जब भी उनको
विदा लेता हूं तो दादा जी की असक्त आँखें इस तरह देखती है जैसे वो अब अख़िरी मुलाक़ात है अब बस ये हमारे रिश्ते की बहुत मज़बूत मगर पुरानी छत बस गिरने वाली है
तब ये दिल सोचने को मजबूर होता है की हमने अपने तरक्की के नाम पर क्या क्या खो दिया और क्या दावों पर है... या जिनके पसीने का नमक हमारी सफलता
का आधार है वो शायद आज भी ख़ाली हाथ है पर फिर भी दुआ देते है और हम सिर्फ़ फ़र्ज़ निभाले लेते है....
आज समाज शहरों की तरक्की पर ख़ुश है लेकिन ये भूल जाता है हमारे गावों ने कितनी बड़ी क़ीमत चुकाई है कितने बापों के बेटे और कितने दादाओं के पोते दफ़न है यहाँ
हम क्या संस्कार दे पाएगे अपने बच्चों को अगर ये ना बता सके की गावों से आते वक़्त कौन कौन रोता था हमारे लिए...
अब अपनी जड़ो से कटे हमारे आगे की पीढ़ी को रिश्तों की ये गर्मी कभी महसूस नहीं होगी लेकिन मैं दुआ करता हूं की अगली बार जब मैं गावों जाऊं तो छत मेरे सर महफूज़ रखना मेरे भगवान.........

who was wrong

today i have watched "Gandhi my father"
movie was nice but i am trying to figure out why hari lal met with this kind of fate...??? after all he was the son of Gandhi.. who was wrong..naturally hari was
wrong and ghandi did what he has to do.. gandhi seems to good to be a father coz if we raise a family then taking care of the family is moral responsibility of a father.. and to some extent gandhi did it but hari was not gandhi and that was the problem.. he always try to get way by the shadow of gandhi..and gandhi never try to understand the problem coz of his work and involvement in bigger issues and when person like gandhi raise a family it is bound to happens coz his aim was not to be good father only but a good human being and a leader and hari was very ordinary man his mantel state was nowhere near to Gandhi..where he could have shoulder the responsibility of being the son of gandhi..because it take a very strong heart and mind to be somebody else
he wanted to be a chhota gandhi but he never shown the quality to become chhota ghandhi...despite of being very affectionate son he fail to show some other qualities like grit and selflessness. he was running away from gandhi but
where to go???? and no body was there to help him...when ever people come to know that he is the son of Gandhi they use to either hate him or exploit him both the ways he was the sufferer..and that's why i think if we starts respecting
person as a human being rather then his deeds and achievements this world will be a better place.... if Gandhi had taken the responsibility as he took of several leprosy patients and sick people hari would not have died like this but no body is perfect and Gandhi was a great leader but a failed father and hari lal was a failed son, husband, father just because his father was gandhi and he was not able to handle the greatness of gandhi...some time ones greatness become burden for other and this is a live example.
some times people pay the price of others deeds...hari paid the price of being the son of Gandhi along with gandhi. but gandhi get the fame and he got all the defame and a horrible death.

DO RAHI

मैं भावनाओं और यथार्थ के बीत की कशमकश के बीच जो रस्साकशी चलती है उसको समझने की कोशिश कर रहा था......भावनाएँ मन के उस स्थिति को कहतें है जहाँ तर्क का हिस्सा नहीं होता और यथार्थ तर्क की ही कसौटी पर कसा जाता है....तो क्या ये संभव है की भावनाए थोड़ी तार्किक हों और यथार्थ थोड़ा भावुक??????और ये मेरे हिसाब से संभव है क्योंकि भावनाएँ जब जन्म लेती है तो यथार्थ से बिल्कुल अनजान होती है लेकिन समय के साथ धीरे धीरेवो भी यथार्थ के धरातल पर आती है.....और यथार्थ भी जब सच्चाई की कठोरता से सर टकरा टकरा कर थक जाता है तो वो भी कुछ भावनाओं की ओर देखता है और यही एक संतुलित जीवन का आधार है...... लेकिन मुश्किल तब होती है जब मन इन दोनो में फ़र्क नहीं कर पाताहम अपनी भावुक ज़िंदगी को असलियत मान लेते है या फिर सिर्फ़ यथार्थ के कठोरता में भावनाओ की बलि दे देते है.......आज हम दोनो भी इसी दो किनारों पर चलने वाले राही है.... तुम अपनी भावुक ज़िंदगी को असलियत का जामा देने में यथार्थ को क़रीब क़रीब नकार चुकी हो और मैं यथार्थ की दुहाई दे दे कर अपनी भावनाओं की बलि दे चुका हूँ ....... हम दोनो नदी के दो किनारे हैं तुम उस ओर अपनी सपनो की दुनिया में खोई सी और मैं इस किनारे दुनिया की सच्चाइयों से लड़ता हुआ कभी कभी तुम्हारी तरफ़ देखता देखता हूँफिर मेरा तर्क ही मेरा मज़ाक उड़ाता है की मैं उसकी तरफ़ क्यों देख रहा हूँ जो किसी और के सपनो में खोई हुई है ???लेकिन मन फिर ये कहता है की शायद उस पार बैठा वो चेहरा कभी ये समझे की ज़िंदगी ना उसकी पूरी है ना मेरी औरमेरी इसलिए नहीं की तुम नहीं हो और तुम्हारी इसलिए नहीं की मैं नहीं हूँ मैं यानी यथार्थ और तुम यानी सिर्फ़ भावनाएँ, फिर हम दोनो किनारों को छोड़ कर नदी में उतरेंगे.....और ये आस लिए मैं अपनी यात्रा इसी किनारे तब तक जारी रखूँगा जब तक मेरा यथार्थ मेरी भावनाओं को हरा नहीं देता.....या तुम्हारी भावनाए मेरे यथार्थ के धरातल पर अपना वजूद तलाशने नहीं आती..... मैं सोचता हूँ की ज़रूरी तो नहीं कि हम या तुम में से कोई जीते ही क्या दोनो हार नहीं सकते या दोनो जीत नहीं सकते??????ज़िंदगी हमें सब कुछ टुकड़ों में क्यों देती है???? उसके कुछ टुकड़े तुम्हारे पास और कुछ मेरे पास फ़र्क सिर्फ़ इतना है कि तुम उन टुकड़ो को पूरी ज़िंदगी मानती हो और मैं उनको सिर्फ़ जीने का बहाना...... तुम मानो या ना मानो लेकिन वक़्त आएगा जब तुम अपने सपनों का बोझ उतार कर रखोगी और बिल्कुल ख़ाली हो जाओगी तब तुमको मेरीयाद आएगी और मैं जब अपने यथार्थ से थक जाऊंगा तब तुम मेरे ही दिल के पास होगी........लेकिन तब तक के लिए हम यूँ ही चलते है इस दुनिया में बस कभी कभी एक दूसरे से अपने अपने रास्ते पर चलते हुए मुस्कुराकर एक दूसरे कि तरफ़ देख लिया करेंगे और उसके बाद भी अगर हम कभी ना मिले और तुम्हारी मंज़िल आ जाए तो चुप चाप मत चले जाना बस इस नदी में एक दिया जला कर छोड़ देना वो जब बहते हुए हमारे पास आएगा तो रास्ते थोड़े आसान हो जाएँगे वरना ज़िंदगी में चलना तो नसीब है.......कुछ अकेले चलते है कुछ कारवाँ के साथ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wajood

मुझे याद है आज भी वो दिन जब मैं तुमसे यूँ ही मिला था और मैने महसूस की थी वो अपनी मिट्टी की ख़ुश्बू जो मेरे बुज़ुर्गों में भी हुआ करती थी तुमसे मिलने के बाद उसका अहसास मुझे फिर से ज़िंदा कर गया था..और मैने तुम्हारे वजूद में उन सब को भी खोजना चाहा जो हमसे कहीं पीछे रह गये है लेकिन ना जाने क्यों तुमसे मिलने के बाद मुझको लगा की इस खुसबू को तुम ख़ुद उतार देना चाहती हो अपने बदन से शायद तुमको ये लगता है की ये शहर सिर्फ़ उन लोगों का है जिनकी अपनी कोई पहचान नहीं है बल्कि वो शहर से अपनी पहचान बनाना चाहते हैं तुमको लगता है की गावों का ये भोलापन यहाँ बेवकूफ़ी की निशानी है पहले भी लोग यही सोच कर आए थे जिन्होने अपने ही वजूद को ख़ुद अपने हाथों से मिटा दिया पर बाद में जाना की ये शहर सिर्फ़ उनको पहचानता है जो ख़ुद अपने आप को पहचानते है क्योंकि यही पहचान हमारा पूरा वजूद होती है जो हमें आदमी से मशीन नहीं बनने देती और हम सिर्फ़ किसी कंपनी में काम करके पैसे बनाने वाले कलपुर्जे नहीं होते....... इसके पहले की ये शहर तुमको तुम्हारी इस पहचान और सादगी को निगल जाए और तुम भी इन्हीं सब लोगों के की तरह इस शहर के लिए महज़ एक सजावट और दिखावे की "चीज़" बन जाओ....... अपनी आँखे खोलो और अपने आप को पहचानो.... तुमको लगता होगा मैं क्यों कह रहा हूँ ये सब तुमसे??????? तो वो सिर्फ़ इस लिए की मैने तुमको देखा तो लगा की तुम मेरे वजूद का एक खोया हुआ हिस्सा हो जो मुझसे इतना दूर जा चुका है की मुझे पहचानता भी नहीं लेकिन मुझे पता है हमारे जिस्म उसी मिट्टी से बने है जिसमें हमारे बुज़ुर्गों की ख़ाक है अगर हम मिलते तो ज़िंदगी पूरी हो जाती लेकिन मैं जहाँ से तुमको आवाज़ दे रहा हूँ वो जगह शायद बहुत दूर है और मैं नहीं जानता की हम दोनो मिलेंगे की नहीं लेकिन मैं ये ज़रूर चाहूँगा की तुम अपने आप को पहचानो....तुमको ज़िंदगी से जो चाहिए वो सब तुमको मिल जाएगा लेकिन पहले ये तो सोच लो की तुमको चाहिए क्या...... ?????
Jis din se chla hu meri manzil pe nazar hai
ankho ne kabhi meel ka pathar nahi deka

platonic love...............

hi friends today i ma writing this blog due to a much talked book called "gunahon ka devta"
by Dharamveer bharti..this book is age less.. it was published in 1959 but you read it you can feel that nothing has changed in terms of emotions and physical relations of two opposite sex....
but wht is really interesting about this book is that it give a very distinct definition of platonic love...it defines a relation between people in such a way which force you to think that love is not about achieving or getting something from each other but it could be the whole base of spiritual life..love can take you to heights of greatness and that is without any expectation...and at the same time this book talks about physical relation by which one can get the whole new definition of life....it gives a very balance insight of emotions and rational life though emotions wins at the end but it leaves a very different feeling and one can conclude that love is so deep in its nature that it need a special personality to understand and to feel that depth....and simultaneously you can define it in pure sexual aspect if you want to do it love it self has no colour...for one it could be the base of life for other it could be the instrument to achieve sexual pleasure and for some one it could be the instrument to find a girl for marriage..and for some it could be the instrument to achieve spiritual heights....
"jaaki rahi bhavna jaisi" this book tell us that nothing can change feeling of love for somebody if your love is so strong. even it don't need the consent of the person you love..because love only happens it can not be done and if some body do it..then he is telling a lie...if i loved somebody it means it happened if i don't get it then move on but no one can change my feeling for the person i love..not even the person whom i love...but it is very hard to find this much perfect personality to understand this platonic relation because it is the highest level of love where everything is very clear but love still exist in its pure form...........

मुद्दतें बीत गयी तुम नही आए अब तक
रास्ता और दिखाओगे ना जाने कब तक
जो भी मिलता है वोह तुम सा ही नज़र आता है
दिल की तनहाईयाँ बहलती हैं यूँ भी हमको जैसे
सचमुच ही पुकारा हो तुम्ही ने हमको
पास आते ही मगर ख्वाब बिखर जाता है
जो भी मिलता है वोह तुम सा ही नज़र आता है
वोह हसीं लम्हे जो कल तक थे खाबों की तरह
आज पलकों पे चमक उठते हैं यादों की तरह दर्द रह जाता है और वक़्त गुज़र जाता है
जो भी मिलता है वो तुम सा ही नज़र आता है भेजते हो कभी गुल को तो कभी शबनम को तुम कहाँ कैसे हो मालूम है हर मौसम को चाँद हर शब को तुम्हारी ही ख़बर लाता है जो भी मिलता है वोह तुम सा ही नज़र आता है मुद्दतें बीत गयी तुम नही आए अब तक रास्ता और दिखाओगे ना जाने कब तक जो भी मिलता है वोह तुम सा ही नज़र आता है

DEATH

today i have to write on a subject which no body wants to talk about but it is a heard reality of life it is "DEATH".... two days days back when i was about to leave for kanpur i came to know that i have lost a nice and loving person my mausa ji... who's age was around 47 yrs in a heart attack..it was a big blow to me because i was scheduled to meet him at lko after one day and now i am going to attend his funeral...my thoughts was numb and mind was friezed for a moment then i just board on train and went to lko attended his funeral and tried to console my maasi..it was unbearable moment to see her in a white saari..i responded all my programme and came back but those memories are still haunting to my mind why it is so...why life is so fragile??? we try to plan our life according to our expectations but GOD always plays a different role in our life we can not say whether it is wright or wrong but now i understand that we have our limitations for everything..we can not change some bottom line rule of life that is....keep away all the ego about urself...if you are success full it is HIS kindness its not your business to boast that you have done it....if something goes wrong then no body is responsible but HIS will, that may be he want to teach us some more heard realities of life....when i was standing on cremation ground then i realised that this is our final destination from where no body can scape not even the most power full person on the earth., and life is too short...death is one moment away and no body knows that for me may be that moment is not too far!!!!!
but some people says that remembering Death means you are undermining the Life but i says remembering death is loving life more intensely because when you know that i am not for ever then you love your self and your loved once more effectively....write some more but for now.......

Love...

Friends today i am writing a blog on love as this is to most common and prevailing phenomena across the world without boundaries...this is the feeling on which poetry songs and films and literature moves.......today i was thinking why it is so that this world is so suspiciously reacts when we talk about it and what is the true definition of LOVE.... people can write n number of quotes on this poets can write thousands of poems every generation grow with this feeling and this word "love" never looses its charm in any generation...when i was too small i got attracted to my teacher but later on i came to know the deference between love and infatuation..then i attracted to wards some girl i thought it is love then after some time i came to know it was opposite sex attraction and then when again i saw a girl then i asked my self do i live here my heart told me don't go in to technicalities if you like her just tell her and after telling here and waiting for her reply then i came to know what is love???
i know may be refuse my proposal may be accept it....but in this process i went through a mantel
and emotional transformation today i know real love is so very fragile and pure that you dont accpect any thing from here not even here consent if here consent come naturally you feel happy if not then you feel drained out a vacuum inside you but you dont say anything to here
and that vacuum helps you to understand the depth of your feeling..it gives you a chance to introspect you that why you are looking for somebody why it is that we need a smile of your sweetheart to make your day??
answer is we as a human after taking birth after mother we dont feel that security and tenderness anywhere and after growing that child inside us keep searching a person who can
fill the gap between a child and a man .... a person who can give that feel of a mother as well as well partner which can give a feel of manhood too...... and love can survive only with a child like heart where emotions comes right from the heart they are not manipulated they are very pure like mother and child relation and naughty like krishna and raadha....
raadha is not worshiped as wife of krishna but worshiped due to selfless love when radha and krishna were together they dont need to spell that relation just looking at them one can understand that yes they are in a special stage of emotions... and we Indians gave respect and acceptance of this kind of relation without any question now if some body say that prove that you love me then i burst in to laughing coz if you can not feel it then there is no need to prove it
may be you are having some kind of mutual relationship but it is not love....
love needs no words....if you are with me and you feel complete then yes we are in love...
if being with you gives me happiness without any reason then we are in love.
when even silence sounds like tender music in my ears then we are in love...
if without you i feel lonely and empty from within then its love......
if you understand me like a mother understand here child then its love..
when i can sleep even at battlefield just by holding your arm then its nothing but love..
when my biggest fear is not my death but fear of loosing you then its love......
this is love and it should be like this for me...other wise it will be a mutual relationship nothing more then that............... lets hope that i will find my love on day.............

friendship

One of my friend said that i have to write a blog on friendship..
in my point of view friends are the only word which show that there is something extra in human then animals because we care about the people whom we love and except family i am not talking about family because every sane human being do care about there family naturally because they grow with them but the world "friend" comes by instinct and very naturally and it dose not happens with everybody you can see how many people have real friends for life time...the people who have friends for life time just ask them what make them a good friends and they can not give any single answer because you don't need a reason or you can not make true friends with purpose..true friends comes naturally to you, like a gift of GOD...you don't expect any thing in return and just being with a friend gives you a nice feel they understand you, listen you, accept you as you are, they give very honest feed back about yourself without any fear and you know they will be there where no body not even your family support you.
some people confuse this friendship word with mutual consent or we can say some people think
that if i scratch your back and you scratch mine then we are friends then these poor people do not know the real essence of friendship.... because there is know way of continuously scratching each others back and when somebody stop due to some reason then there friendship comes to an end...and in delhi it happens often....
in my opinion friendship is one step ahead then love because love has some conditions some boundaries love need loyalty to one but friend give you ample space to live they don't try to change you when you are happy you can calibrate with your family your friend don't even bothered but when you are said you go to him and he is the only one who can give you the solutions, advices, everything that can make you happy....and he is the only person who's life is not dependent on you but who care about your feeling who respect your existence..not your deeds in my point of view the saying "a friend in need is a friend indeed" is wrong it should be like
"you wont need anything if you have a true friend"
Do you have have a true friend??????????

Life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be enjoyed

One day I decided to quit... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have 1 last talk with NATURE."NATURE", I said. "Can u give me one good reason not to quit?""Look around", NATURE said. "Do u see the fern & the bamboo? When I planted the fern & the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.In the 2nd year the Fern grew more vibrant & plentiful & again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.""In year 3 there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In year 4, again, there was nothing from the bamboo see. I would not quit." NATURE said."Then in the 5th year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small & insignificant. But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong & gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it couldn’t handle.""Did u know, that all this time u have been struggling, u have actually been growing roots?" "I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on u.""Don't compare urself to others. The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful.""Ur time will come, U will rise high""How high should I rise?" I asked."How high will the bamboo rise?" NATURE asked in return."As high as it can?" I asked"Yes, give me glory by rising as high as u can." NATURE saidNow I realized that what ever is around me is what I want to see. My Surroundings r my NATURE & thus it’s my SOUL. My Soul, who see this & make me feel situational HAPPY, SAD, JOYFUL or DEPRESSED"
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be enjoyed"

Reservation in top institutions

This issue is been debated many times every where and friends
What is your view about it. I don’t know but I support reservation..
Why..
There are several points that has been said in anti reservation campaigns
first point is..It degrades the quality of talent. Because when you give preference to
A 99 mark obtained person over 100 then your are degrading the talent..
So friends I just want to ask the definition of quality in terms of talent..
Do you think that we can judge the talent by deference of 1 mark that 99 mark can be nullified just because 1 mark..
Second why we are crying for better talent ??? because it gives us the technology
And resources which help us to grow this country…but is it possible a uniform growth
If we form a cartel of 10% so called talented people who caters the 100% technical and intellectual need of the nation and the rest will just work as there support system ????
In this situation we can have the best talent in the world but we never grow as a nation.
Because growth of a nation is always determined by the purchasing power parity (PPP)
Of the people of the country….just look around your self and see how many people have got the basic amenity by western standards ??
Third they always talk about equal opportunity. then I just want to say that please who so ever is talking about equal opportunity please take out your child from a posh public school of Delhi and send him to a government school of a remote village of the our country where they have not get a proper sanitation and drinking water and you talk about studies. And then see what will happen to your talented son???
Fourth they say the figure of the senses is too old we can not relies on too old data..
And it is difficult to count the population of India by there cast…then don’t count
The poor and “have not” people but count the rich and so-called talented people
And you will get the data of have not people automatically but they will not do this.
You will surprise to get the data that all the 80% of the talent and money belongs to so
Called upper cast people it is not because they forcefully kept other cast at the bay but because they got better environment to nurture their talent and now they don’t even realize that what it takes to nurture a good talent. And if some of your countryman did not get that environment then they should accommodate them.
And the best example of this is like if in our home some body got ill and doctor advise
That the he need some more milk and nutrition but the available resources are limited then every family member contribute his share of milk to that ill person.
The reservation is same kind of thing but some people think that by giving there share of milk they won’t survive and they will die then there is no solution of this thing only solution that we are witnessing in Bihar, Orisa and west Bengal in terms of “NAXAL”
They are the people who have not get there share of milk and in desperation they are trying there level best to grab the milk by force….
“ jahaan sach na chale wahaan jhooth sahi
jahaan haq naa mile wahaan loot sahi”

just imagine what we will do with the talent which dose not help us to grow but to divide ????????

faux pas

A faux pas (French for false step) is a violation of accepted, although unwritten, social rules. Faux pas vary widely from culture to culture and what is considered good manners in one culture can be considered a faux pas in another. For example, in English-speaking Western countries it is usually considered a nice gesture to bring a bottle of wine when going to someone's house for dinner. In France, however, this is considered insulting as it suggests the hosts are unable to provide their own good wine. However, bringing flowers to the hostess is rarely a faux pas, although one sometimes needs to be careful what kind of flowers to bring.

list of faux pas

African regions: A left-handed handshake. Offering and accepting things with the left hand.
Arab countries; Indian Subcontinent; Middle East; East Africa: South-East Asia: Displaying the soles of the feet or touching somebody with shoes. A left-handed handshake or passing food at the table with the left hand.
Brazil: Giving an inverted American OK sign (referring to the anus).
Canada; Scandinavia; Central and Eastern Europe; Japan; Hawaii: While, in the United States and Western Europe, it is considered acceptable to enter someone's household and leave your shoes on your feet, this behaviour is not acceptable in Canada, nor in Scandinavia, Central and Eastern Europe, East Asia, and most households in Hawaii.
China: Giving someone a timepiece as a gift. The phrase "giving a timepiece" is a homonym for burying the dead.
Central and Eastern Europe: Shaking hands while wearing gloves (this does not apply to women).
France : Using the pronoun "tu" (you-singular), instead of "vous" (formal you) when talking to an elder or a stranger. Asking for cheese after taking dessert. Asking an individual their job or name directly. Offering someone a gift of chrysanthemums on an occasion other than a funeral (as chrysanthemums are generally associated with death in France).
Russia: Using the pronoun "Ti" (Ты - you), instead of "Vi" (Вы) (formal you) when talking to an elder or a stranger.
Germany: Using the pronoun "Du" (you), instead of "Sie" (formal you) when talking to an elder or a stranger.
Greece: Showing the number five by displaying a hand with fingers spread and palm facing the recipient of the gesture is offensive. The same gesture with the palm facing the gesturer is not.
Netherlands: Using the pronoun "Jij" (you), instead of "U" (formal you) when talking to an elder or a stranger.
India; Pakistan; Bangladesh;Burma: Eating or shaking hands with the left hand, not greeting family elders at a gathering, addressing elders without salutations.
Japan: When greeting or thanking another person, not bowing lower than the other person when the other person is older or has a higher social status.
Middle East: Addressing an elder or person higher in social status with his/her bare name. Words like uncle/aunt, (elder) brother/sister or formally Mr./Mrs. are expected to be used.
Pakistan: Using the pronoun "TUM" or "TOO" (you), instead of "AAP" (formal you) when talking to an elder or a stranger. Walking with shoes on the carpet inside a house. Calling an "elder" or a "stranger member of opposite sex" with just his name.
Romania; Russia; Slovakia; Czech Republic; Croatia; Hungary; Serbia; Poland; Bulgaria; Ukraine; Estonia; Lithuania; Latvia: Giving somebody an even number of flowers. This should only be done in funerals.
South America, Spain, and other Spanish speaking countries: Neglecting to greet someone at a social / family gathering. Any kind of large gathering of friends or family should be started by greeting every person present (oldest first if possible), and making sure to say goodbye upon leaving. This rule is more relaxed in a group of young people. Using the pronoun "tú" (you), instead of "Usted" (formal you) when talking to an elder or a stranger.
Thailand: Stepping over or standing on bills or coins—they all have the face of the King, who is highly revered. Also, touching a Thai person on their head, as the head is considered a sacred part of the body. Food must be kept above the ground level.
United Kingdom, Ireland, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa: The "V sign", made by holding the middle and index fingers up so as to form a V-shape (such as when indicating "two" of something), is considered an offensive gesture when made with the back of the hand pointed towards the listener, particularly when done so with an upward thrust. It is seen as having similar meaning to "the finger". With the hand held the other way, so the palm points towards the listener, the otherwise identical gesture is perfectly acceptable.
Wales: In the Welsh language, using the pronoun "ti" (you), instead of "chi" (formal you) when talking to an elder or a stranger.

how do you think

One must be careful not to confuse empathy with either sympathy, emotional contagion or telepathy. Sympathy is the feeling of compassion for another, the wish to see them better off or happier, often described as "feeling sorry" for someone. Emotional contagion is when a person (especially an infant or a member of a mob) imitatively 'catches' the emotions that others are showing without necessarily recognising this is happening. Telepathy is a controversial paranormal phenomenon, whereby emotions or other mental states can be read directly, without needing to infer, or perceive expressive clues about the other person.
Sympathy is, "I'm sorry for your sadness, I wish to help."
Emotional Contagion is, "I feel sad."
Empathy is, "I feel your sadness."
Apathy is, " I don't care how you feel. "
Telepathy is, "I read your sadness without you expressing it to me in any normal way."

Drive theory

Drive Theory was first suggested by Robert Zajonc in 1965 as an explanation of the audience effect. The audience effect notes that in some cases the presence of a passive audience will facilitate the better performance of a task; while in other cases the presence of an audience will inhibit the performance of a task.
Drive Theory states that due to the unpredictable nature of people, a person performing a task rarely knows for certain what others are going to do in response. Therefore, there is a clear advantage to the species for an individual's presence to cause us to be in a state of alert arousal. Increased arousal (stress) can therefore be seen as an instinctive reaction to social presence.
This arousal creates a "drive" that causes us to enact the behaviours that form our dominant response for that particular situation. Our dominate response is the most likely response given our skills at use.
If the dominant response is "correct" (that is to say, if the task we are to perform is subjectively perceived as being easy), then the social pressure produces an improved performance. However, if the dominant response is "incorrect" (the task is difficult), then social presence produces an impaired performance

Capitalism good or bad for india

In the late 19th century, the control and direction of large areas of industry came into the hands of financiers. This period has been defined as "finance capitalism," characterized by the subordination of processes of production to the accumulation of money profits in a financial system Major characteristics of capitalism in this period included the establishment of large industrial cartels or monopolies; the ownership and management of industry by financiers divorced from the production process; and the development of a complex system of banking, an equity market, and corporate holdings of capital through stock ownership Increasingly, large industries and land became the subject of profit and loss by financial speculators.
Late 19th and early 20th century capitalism has also been described as an era of "monopoly capitalism," marked by movement from laissez-faire ideology and government policies to the concentration of capital into large monopolistic or oligopolistic holdings by banks and financiers, and characterized by the growth of large corporations and a division of labor separating shareholders, owners, and managers.[24] Although the concept of monopoly capitalism originated among Marxists theorists[25], non-Marxist economic historians have also commented on the rise of monopolies and trusts in the period. Murray Rothbard, asserting that the large cartels of the late 19th century could not arise on the free market, argued that the "state monopoly capitalism" of the period was the result of interventionist policies adopted by governments, such as tariffs, quotas, licenses, and partnership between state and big business. By the last quarter of the 19th century, the emergence of large industrial trusts had provoked legislation in the U.S. to reduce the monopolistic tendencies of the period. Gradually, the U.S. federal government played a larger and larger role in passing antitrust laws and regulation of industrial standards for key industries of special public concern. However, some economic historians believe these new laws were in fact designed to aid large corporations at the expense of smaller competitors.[27] By the end of the 19th century, economic depressions and boom and bust business cycles had become a recurring problem. In particular, the Long Depression of the 1870s and 1880s and the Great Depression of the 1930s affected almost the entire capitalist world, and generated discussion about capitalism’s long-term survival prospects. During the 1930s, Marxist commentators often posited the possibility of capitalism's decline or demise, often in alleged contrast to the ability of the Soviet Union to avoid suffering the effects of the global depression.
Now india is in transitory phase and all the glliters of new found status of software hub but growth is very uneven just go 20Km from any matro and see the real picture of india.
how we can say we are growing when we can not provide basic amenities to 70% of the population and is it not a irony indeed that white goods where big corporate houses are making money is geting cheaper and cheaper but pulses and eating items are souring up..why..
production of agricultural good are geting down and software market is going high...
can any one tell me is there any software program available to make our farmers rich.
if we do not learn from history then we wil face a economic depression again.